We are changing things up a little bit this week at cultureinfusion.com. This week we would like to introduce another guest blogger who will provide a different perspective than you might be used to reading here. Rob Booker is an entrepreneur who has been doing his own thing for several years and doing it very successfully. We asked Rob to share with us his thoughts on self sabotage. Why do we sometimes seem to shoot ourselves in the foot when we are trying to achieve our own dreams? Rob’s simple but effective approach is a lesson for us all whether we are leading in an organization or just leading ourselves through an online business. Thank you Rob for sharing your thoughts and bringing your perspective to leaders who want to make a difference.

Beating Self Sabotage

I ruined my entire marketing operation. With one decision.

With just one wrong choice – I lost one of the biggest lead generation sources for my business.

I also lost $23,340.

I went into the garage and kicked the garbage cans around for fifteen minutes.

Then I sat down with a beer and asked myself: How the heck did that happen? 

The Story

In the summer of 2014, I spent $3,000 on Facebook ads.

They worked ok. Every day, 5 new leads. One, two, three, four, five. And ten on the weekends when people spent more time on social media.

Small successes. Building up. 

But it was taking too much time. 

I thought, “At this pace, it will be a full year before I reach my revenue goals from Facebook ads.”

What could I do to speed it up?

Could I shortcut the path to success?

Well, of course I could.

I could hire an expert. Someone who had proven experience with Facebook ads.

Delegation! Not just a buzz word – but a proven strategy for success in business. 

The “Expert”

The Facebook consultant had excellent references. 

I didn’t talk to any current customers. But industry leaders recommended the firm. The Chief Marketing Officer of a $50 million ecommerce company said, there is no one better.

I sent $15,000 to get started. And $5,000 more to run the first batch of ads on Facebook.

And then … Nothing.



The consultant … disappeared.

I couldn’t get a call back. Or an update about my campaign. For two weeks, I tried to get an update. 

A small voice in the back of my mind said: This consultant is taking on a ton of new clients. You should back out of this.

But the front of my brain said: That’s embarrassing. You didn’t even give this a chance to work. 

So … I kept calling.

Finally, in a rush of work over a weekend, when I backed him into a corner, the consultant started running the ads.

 The “Results”

One lead. In a week.

One sale. Two weeks later.

The consultant called me for our “weekly update”: We need to spend more money on ads.

I said I would think about it over the weekend.

 Over the Weekend

That Saturday morning, Facebook sent me the following email:

We have deactivated your Facebook advertiser account. Please consider this decision final.

Well, at least I had my answer: We wouldn’t be spending more money on ads.

 Score Update

Consultant: $15,000

Facebook: $5,000

Rob’s Business: $0

 What I Learned about Self Sabotage

I’m calling this experience “self sabotage” for one important reason. I was experiencing slow, steady growth. And then, despite the small voice of warning, I tried to take a short cut.

Self Sabotage Is:

1) Wrecking success,

2) With a few decisions,

3) Despite internal or external warnings.

 How to Prevent It:

I made a list of ways that I could prevent self-sabotage in the future. I hope some of these help.

1) The answer usually isn’t to spend a lot of money.

2) If you hear a small voice of warning inside, set a 48 hour timer and make no further moves.

3) Set a 7-day decision timer on any major business move. During this time, consult trusted advisors and perform due diligence (like interviewing customers). Take plenty of quiet time to consider the question, “what if it goes wrong?”

4) Do not compare small success now (that is real) with huge success later (which is fantasy). In other words, don’t let what you don’t have spoilt what you do have.

5) Major success is the consistent application of force on a routine that is working, plus time. 

6) Dissatisfaction can be useful but it also can lead to the search for shortcuts. 

Wow, this Seems Horrible

The ideas above sound terrible. It sounds like there is no quick fix. No easy path to success. No shortcut. No overnight million dollar idea.

And the reality is that overnight success happens to me (and you) when we are doing the right things. Over and over. For a long time. And then opportunity knocks.

Here are some examples:

1) I did 460 episodes of my investment podcast, over 4 years. Then, one day out of the blue, I got an opportunity to do a terrestrial radio show.

2) I blogged for three years, hundreds of posts, and then one day I got my first customer. That turned into a $6 million dollar business for me.

The list goes on. Professionally and personally, luck finds me when I am busy not worrying about luck. Funny, right?

 The End of the Consultant (and the Story)

I never got my Facebook account turned back on.

I never talked to the consultant again. He did agree to return $7,500 of his fee. I thought that was classy. I forgave him with no hesitation because the responsibility was truly mine.

In January of 2015, I got back to business as usual. Running ads in other places. Reaching out to competitors and asking to do joint marketing together. Connecting with my subscribers by email, day after day. 

And one day, while I was just doing my job, I had an idea.

That idea turned into a product.

That product sold $175,000 on the first Monday it was available. And $400,000 in the first month. It was the biggest success I’d ever had in business.

A friend told me, “Dang, that came out of nowhere!”

But really. It didn’t. 

You know where it came from.


Rob writes and speaks about success in online business. You can text him anytime at 304-281-8332 to say hello and talk business. Or listen to his Ideas for Online Business Podcast on iTunes. 



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