I watched to a short video the other day of a man who seven years ago was on food stamps and had a job delivering pizzas as he tried to provide for a family of six. He did not go into how he had come to be in that desperate place instead his message was about what he had learned and how that dark time in the end had lead to something great. Out of this less than ideal season in his life a business was born. A business that would allow his family to not struggle from day to day and one that would allow others who were struggling to have access to services that would enrich their lives. As I listened to the man I could not help but stop and reflect on my own personal journeys through dark times. It is very hard when you are in the middle of a trial to see how this could turn into something good (great even). I am sure this gentlemen had people in his life telling him that if he just kept going things would get better. Those famous lines we all are guilty of saying with good intent. You know like “all things happen for a reason” or “things could be worse”. No matter what people say or we say to ourselves it is hard in the midst of struggles to believe that this too shall pass and the sunshine will return.

My mom worked for a company for over 30 years. She poured herself into her work and was successful in her role. One day she came into the office and was terminated. I think it was labeled early retirement, but anyway you dress it up, it was an involuntary separation of duties. She was so upset. She was embarrassed and she was replaced, meaning her job was not eliminated it was given to someone younger. She really was lost for several months. At that time she could see no good in what had happened. It took a couple years for her to be able to start seeing where this forced retirement had been a blessing in disguise. It was shortly after that event that my father was diagnosed with terminal liver cancer. With her being fully out of the workforce she was able to be with him and help him through his last months of life. After my father passed away my mom reflected on how it had been a good thing she was let go from her company and how spending that much focused time with her husband would not have been possible if she was still working. The other kicker was less than a year after she was forced out the entire southeast branch closed and many people lost their jobs.

If you are a country music fan or maybe just a Garth fan you might remember an old song titled Unanswered Prayers. There is a line in this song that says, “thank God for unanswered prayers”. I will admit that I have prayed for things in my life that I just knew I had to have to be happy. I have prayed for material things, relationships, and even jobs. As a wild young man I prayed to get out of the consequences of my mischief. The point being most of the time what I thought was best for me wasn’t. As I listened to the man in the video and how he desperately wanted a better paying job I imagine at times he thought he knew what he needed. In the end he was surprised that his ticket out of poverty was something entirely different than he planned. He took a risk. Instead of worrying about failing (again) he stepped out and created a new idea that would benefit others and provide for his family. His motivation was survival, but his heart was for those in the same situation he was in. How could he give something when he had nothing and in turn meet his family obligations?  I don’t know about you but that is a radical concept. I like to play it safe. I love to think of myself as a risk taker, but I am not. For the most part I am structured, analytical, and I have no problem walking the high wire but I need to triple check all the logistical calculations first.

In our professional lives we see this type of thing often terminations, being passed over for  a promotion or we passed someone on our staff over for a promotion, bankruptcies and acquisitions. Whatever the case maybe the dark times do come and in the midst of those it can be hard to see what good can come of this. As leaders dealing with a staff member or peer going through a dark time it can be difficult to know what words to convey. What I have found most helpful is to just listen and to provide support from the heart. Who knows why the man in the video found himself underemployed and on food stamps. Seven years later he is a successful owner of a nationwide business so chances are he was not underemployed because he lacked talent. Maybe he was in the wrong role before, maybe he was misunderstood, or maybe he needed a wake up call. Whatever the reason it is not about what happened to him but about how he responded. I have no great life lesson in this week’s post just a reminder that there is a plan bigger than us all and to never lose hope.

Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future. Robert H. Schuller




  1. jessica smith | Reply

    Amen! This is a great post and a terrific reminder, we are all going to go through things. That is part of life, but if we trust God, He can show that He truly can make all things good. His word tells us to rejoice in trials. James 1:2 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds,” That seems quite impossible when walking through those dark times of life, but there is a reason God tells us this. Trials have a way of molding us, teaching us valuable lessons and giving us testimony of how to overcome.

    Great post! Thank you!

  2. Patrick Kimpler | Reply

    Thank you so very much for your contributions. Your messages are very pertinent and at all times relevant.

  3. Chris Walden Post author | Reply
    Chris Walden

    Thank you Jess and Patrick for the kind words. I really enjoy hearing when readers can relate to our experiences.

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